Romantic Nude Sex Addiction. Help is out there.

Recent research has shown that the reason porn addiction is so damaging to society is that it inevitably leads to the unspeakable act of romantic nude sex. Romantic Nude Sex is the lustfull and illicit act of propagating the species in a way that God never intended–naked, kissing, speaking to each other, touching or tasting each other’s skin, and listening to each-other’s voices during sex. Yes, romantic nude sex is the bane of every god-fearing society and has the ability to destroy lives and happiness. And although many rightly understand that porn is public enemy number one in leading youth to the evils of romantic nude sex, insanely… few are talking about porn’s partner in crime in leading our children toward the inevitable heinous final act… ROMANCE.

Yes, just as nudity seems to unexplainably lead men toward the road to destruction, ROMANCE, for some strange reason, seems to do the same to our women. Especially the young ones. Its the 500 lb elephant in the room no one seems to be talking about. The disgusting romantic literature so pervasive in our culture plants unhealthy expectations in the minds of our young women, painting a picture of men that no boy can live up to. Programming in a young girls minds, desires for a level of attention and perfection in words and acts that are simply not realistic for the common man to accomplish. It subjugates and exploits men into being fodder for a woman’s lusts. It temps women to think about the final unholy act.

These twin horses of the apocalypse, romance and porn, lead our youth like the seductive voice of a siren, down the hellish path toward the ultimate act of evil— romantic nude sex. Righteous people, like me, know that God never intended sex to be either romantic or nude. No woman or man should have to be seen or judged for their looks during sex— nor should either have to put on an act of romance or compared with others in their ability to accomplish it. The expectations of nudity and romance are clinically proven to cause more anxiety, conflict and divorce than any other thing in relationships today, with the possible exception of Netflix binging in bed and Instagram use on the toilet.

A recent Harvard study showed that as much as 94.784% of the population is unexplainably and uncontrollably drawn to romance and/or nudity at some point in their lives. This disgusting and unhealthy trend shows how far our society has slid toward eventual destruction. 85% of men admit to having consumed media with nude depictions of women by the time they are 23, and 99% of women admit to having watched a chick-flick or media depiction of romance by the time they are 30. 71% of respondents admitted that these media depictions likely influenced their romantic and/or sexual expectations and 43% admitted it was likely the primary reason that they tried a romantic and/or nude sex act.

The question remains, what can we do about this alarming trend? The battle must be fought in our churches and at home. Many congregations have found great success first by teaching young men and women at the earliest age possible how evil romance and nudity are. They must realize that sex is holy, if done fully clothed and without romance. But they must be made to feel the holy purging emotion of guilt, at as early age as possible, for any desires to see nudity or experience romance. It is also important to associate great scorn and malevolence to the words we use to describe nudity or romance in media. Luckily the righteous in our society have already accomplished this with the word “porn”, but we must work hard to associate the same disdain for the concept of romance in media. The word romcom, romnovel and chick-flick should be made to express the horrors that they are, before they lead any more of our young girls into addiction. Or any more of our boys into romantic media exploitation. They are ravaging wolves in sheep’s clothing. Many states have already declared porn and romance in media a public nuisance and threat, helping our youth understand the evils at an early age, so when they feel the desire to see a sexualized naked individual or a romanticized relationship in media they can realize how uncontrollably evil their own desires are, and seek help for their addictions before its too late. Public shame and the label of ‘addict’ have been shown to be powerful deterrents, especially in young adults.

Equally important is to teach the importance of ending marriages early should one discover their partner is a romance or porn addict. John L. Turnings of the Addiction Institute has taught that a good rule of thumb for determining addiction is 7 and a half months of consecutive behavioral urges that are not able to be successfully suppressed or controlled. So if your wife finds herself watching chickflicks or romcoms or reading romance novels, after being adequately taught and demonized for the evilness inherent in the desire to consume this media for 7.5 months, a help group, 12 step program or shock therapy program should be sought. The same goes for men who find themselves uncontrollably drawn to nude or sexual media. He continued by explaining that if these don’t prove effective after 2 years, “divorce should be seriously considered.” “These addictions have been shown to lead to marriage, infidelity and/or nude romantic sex, and should be shamed and remedied as quickly as possible”, he says. Woman who crave romance-filled media and men who crave nudity-filled media are ten times more likely to be both married and/or unfaithful and will far more likely destroy your relationships.

Nude romantic sex is a pestilence in our society. Much like the bark beetle can silently destroy a forest from the inside out, so can romance and nudity along with the nude romantic sex they lead to silently destroy an entire culture. Unrealistic expectations and the lascivious pleasures of skin touching and viewing, or seductive indulgences of romantic gestures leave only broken lives and marriages in their wake. But help is out there. First we simply must bring public awareness of the problem. Once enough people are convinced of the evilness of their innate desires for romance and nudity, then help is just around the corner. These desires CAN BE CURED. Most people who seek help by their late teens or early twenties, find the will to completely control these desires by the time they reach their mid thirties to early forties. The battle is real, but peace and wholeness are just around the corner for those righteous, willing and humble enough to try.

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